Why You Should Not Have a Boyfriend During Intensive Studying
Why You Should Not Have a Boyfriend During Intensive Studying
The academic, psychological, and practical reasons many top students stay single until graduation.
Not everyone needs to avoid relationships during their studies —
but many high-achieving students choose to stay single while preparing for university, exams, or C1/DSH/TestDaF.
Here’s why.
⭐ 1. Relationships consume time — more than you think
A boyfriend isn’t just “one hour per day.”
It’s:
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texting
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calls
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emotional support
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arguments
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meeting
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travel
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recovering after emotional fights
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mental energy
Most relationships cost 10–25 hours per week.
That’s exactly how much you need for top grades.
⭐ 2. Emotional drama destroys focus
Even healthy relationships come with:
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misunderstandings
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jealousy
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disappointment
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expectations
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pressure
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emotional reactions
Your brain can’t study complex topics (mathematics, physics, grammar, engineering) when you are sad, confused, angry, or tired from fighting.
Emotions kill concentration faster than anything else.
⭐ 3. Relationships create mental load
Mental load = thinking about someone all day.
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“Why didn’t he text?”
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“Is he upset?”
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“Why was he distant?”
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“Should I say something?”
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“What if he leaves me?”
This eats your attention like a black hole.
Even if you open your textbook, your mind is somewhere else.
⭐ 4. You lose your independence
High-performing students need:
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discipline
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self-control
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routine
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time-blocking
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independence
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emotional stability
A relationship often interrupts your rhythm.
You adjust to HIS plans, HIS mood, HIS life.
Your academic life becomes secondary.
⭐ 5. Early relationships often lower ambition
Psychologists say that people in new relationships experience:
✨ dopamine highs
✨ comfort zone feeling
✨ lower personal ambition
Because the brain feels “rewarded,” the drive to prove yourself or achieve more often decreases.
Many students lose academic motivation when they fall in love.
⭐ 6. You have less time for your goals
Studying = investment.
It’s the foundation for:
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your future salary
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your independence
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your visa/residency
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your career
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your stability
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your confidence
A relationship can wait.
Your degree cannot.
If you lose one semester — you lose a full year of your life.
⭐ 7. Breakups can destroy academic performance
Breakups =
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no sleep
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crying
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anxiety
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emotional shock
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loss of appetite
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burnout
Many students fail exams because they broke up one week before.
When you’re single, you control your emotional world.
When you have a boyfriend, your emotions depend on someone else.
⭐ 8. You need your energy for YOURSELF
Studying in university, preparing for DSH, learning for exams —
all of that requires:
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focus
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self-discipline
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confidence
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self-improvement
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emotional strength
A relationship often takes that energy away.
Being single during studying means:
✔ more time
✔ more money
✔ more peace
✔ more emotional stability
✔ more freedom
✔ more ambition
✔ more growth
It’s a period where you build YOUR future.
⭐ 9. You grow faster when you’re alone
Being single during your studies helps you:
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discover who you are
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find your career path
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develop your personality
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build your self-esteem
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create strong friendships
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learn responsibility
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travel freely
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focus on your academic goals
After that, you can choose a partner from a place of strength, not weakness.
⭐ 10. The truth
You don’t need a boyfriend right now —
you need stability, focus, discipline, and peace.
Love will come later.
Your degree comes only once.
⭐ Conclusion
You don't have to avoid relationships completely —
but choosing to stay single while studying is one of the smartest decisions many successful students make.
You protect your:
✔ time
✔ mental health
✔ emotional balance
✔ academic future
✔ career chances
✔ independence
A relationship can be beautiful.
But your education is the foundation for your entire life.
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